One of the things I've talked about before is
how once a person believes something to be "true"
or believes that they understand how something
works, that they tend to make other information or
new things that they learn, fit that older model,
rather than being open to change.
For instance, people who become part of a cult
will tend to take the advice from others, evidence
that they're not doing the right thing etc. to
help convince them that they ARE doing the right
thing.
The reason that I bring this up is because it
sounds to me like you're looking for an answer to
how to solve a problem that you should actually
try to PREVENT in the first place.
I'm going to talk about how to prevent this
problem first, then tell you a few things you can
do when you run into it again in the future as
well.
Here are two things to keep in mind:
1) Women give out their numbers to guys A LOT (on
average). A woman can have all kinds of reasons
for giving out her number. She might like the
attention, or it might even be just to get rid of
a guy.
2) Women expect men to call THEM. And if a man
doesn't reach them when he calls, a woman expects
the man to TRY AGAIN. (In the book "The Rules" -
the book for women about how to get a man to marry
you - the authors tell women not to call men and
rarely return a man's call, because it makes him
think about you and want you more).
If I were you, I'd start thinking about two
approaches:
1) Figure out how to make it so that women WANT to
give you their REAL number and make them WANT to
call you back based on the first meeting.
2) If you got a number instead of email, call her
at least 3 or 4 times before you give up.
To figure out how to make women WANT to call
you back, you might have to work on improving your
humor, your personality, your appearance, or
whatever. In short, you need to learn how to make
a woman feel ATTRACTION for you when you first
meet her. If you don't, she's not likely to call
you back.
Don't go too overboard on this one because a
lot of this issue is just the fact that women
don't return calls as often as men do... but think
it through.
There are probably a few things you're doing
that make women feel a little strange at first
(this is just a guess, as most guys have things
they could improve).
Maybe you're acting a little too nervous.
Maybe you're acting too "nice" or like you're
"awed" by women.
Maybe you're not making eye contact directly,
and you're giving off a "not-very-confident" vibe.
Think about it.
But the best thing you can do is to just call a
woman on the phone 3 or 4 times before you give
up! (That is, when a woman gives you her REAL
number).
Women expect men to keep trying, so they just
don't call back.
Remember, SHE'S THE WOMAN. She's the one who's
getting approached by interested guys, and who
probably sees you as "just another guy" calling
her.
You must be persistent, keep it cool and low-
key, and keep calling until you reach her.
If a woman gives you a fake number, it just
means that she wanted to get rid of you...
You need to think about how the interaction
went, and TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for the behavior and
communication that made her want to give you a
fake number.
Again, think about it and make improvements.
And to answer your question directly of "What
do I do if I see her again afterwards", I'd say
that it all depends.
If you would consider going out with a woman
who has the ethical standard of giving out fake
numbers, then I'd say you might want to reconsider
your choice of women...
And if you would like to talk to a woman who
didn't call you back (maybe you left her a
message, etc.), then I'd come up with something
funny. Cocky & Funny, that is.
Walk over and make fun of her because it's
obvious that she didn't have enough money to pay
her phone bill and when she tried to call you back
she found that her phone was disconnected but that
it's nothing to be ashamed of and you'll take pity
on her and buy her some ramen noodle soup while
she's broke and hungry.
Just make sure you're lighthearted about it,
and you communicate that you could really care
less that she didn't call you back... but that
you're going to take the opportunity to bust on
her because she's in your presence.
Your body language says SOOOOO MUCH about you,
and women use body language to decide many, many
things about you.
If your body language and communications aren't
working together to create ATTRACTION, then you're
going to get a lot more fake numbers and a lot
fewer calls back from women.
how once a person believes something to be "true"
or believes that they understand how something
works, that they tend to make other information or
new things that they learn, fit that older model,
rather than being open to change.
For instance, people who become part of a cult
will tend to take the advice from others, evidence
that they're not doing the right thing etc. to
help convince them that they ARE doing the right
thing.
The reason that I bring this up is because it
sounds to me like you're looking for an answer to
how to solve a problem that you should actually
try to PREVENT in the first place.
I'm going to talk about how to prevent this
problem first, then tell you a few things you can
do when you run into it again in the future as
well.
Here are two things to keep in mind:
1) Women give out their numbers to guys A LOT (on
average). A woman can have all kinds of reasons
for giving out her number. She might like the
attention, or it might even be just to get rid of
a guy.
2) Women expect men to call THEM. And if a man
doesn't reach them when he calls, a woman expects
the man to TRY AGAIN. (In the book "The Rules" -
the book for women about how to get a man to marry
you - the authors tell women not to call men and
rarely return a man's call, because it makes him
think about you and want you more).
If I were you, I'd start thinking about two
approaches:
1) Figure out how to make it so that women WANT to
give you their REAL number and make them WANT to
call you back based on the first meeting.
2) If you got a number instead of email, call her
at least 3 or 4 times before you give up.
To figure out how to make women WANT to call
you back, you might have to work on improving your
humor, your personality, your appearance, or
whatever. In short, you need to learn how to make
a woman feel ATTRACTION for you when you first
meet her. If you don't, she's not likely to call
you back.
Don't go too overboard on this one because a
lot of this issue is just the fact that women
don't return calls as often as men do... but think
it through.
There are probably a few things you're doing
that make women feel a little strange at first
(this is just a guess, as most guys have things
they could improve).
Maybe you're acting a little too nervous.
Maybe you're acting too "nice" or like you're
"awed" by women.
Maybe you're not making eye contact directly,
and you're giving off a "not-very-confident" vibe.
Think about it.
But the best thing you can do is to just call a
woman on the phone 3 or 4 times before you give
up! (That is, when a woman gives you her REAL
number).
Women expect men to keep trying, so they just
don't call back.
Remember, SHE'S THE WOMAN. She's the one who's
getting approached by interested guys, and who
probably sees you as "just another guy" calling
her.
You must be persistent, keep it cool and low-
key, and keep calling until you reach her.
If a woman gives you a fake number, it just
means that she wanted to get rid of you...
You need to think about how the interaction
went, and TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for the behavior and
communication that made her want to give you a
fake number.
Again, think about it and make improvements.
And to answer your question directly of "What
do I do if I see her again afterwards", I'd say
that it all depends.
If you would consider going out with a woman
who has the ethical standard of giving out fake
numbers, then I'd say you might want to reconsider
your choice of women...
And if you would like to talk to a woman who
didn't call you back (maybe you left her a
message, etc.), then I'd come up with something
funny. Cocky & Funny, that is.
Walk over and make fun of her because it's
obvious that she didn't have enough money to pay
her phone bill and when she tried to call you back
she found that her phone was disconnected but that
it's nothing to be ashamed of and you'll take pity
on her and buy her some ramen noodle soup while
she's broke and hungry.
Just make sure you're lighthearted about it,
and you communicate that you could really care
less that she didn't call you back... but that
you're going to take the opportunity to bust on
her because she's in your presence.
Your body language says SOOOOO MUCH about you,
and women use body language to decide many, many
things about you.
If your body language and communications aren't
working together to create ATTRACTION, then you're
going to get a lot more fake numbers and a lot
fewer calls back from women.
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